Evolutionary Parenting is a highly recommended resource. This particular post is worth a look. This is not a typical post for this website, but it (the whole post) needed to be said:
Yes, if you are a parent who is forever putting your wants above your children’s needs, under the guise that they need to “fit in” or that “happy parent = happy child” (a euphemism for taking the easy and selfish way out more often than it actually refers to parents taking care of themselves to care for their kids), you are behaving irresponsibly and selfishly. Deal with it or change, just don’t bitch that you’re being made to feel guilty or some such crap.
This particular section, I wanted to address. I often talk to mums about 'fitting their own mask first', and being sure to look after themselves and "Happy Mum, Happy Bub" has accommodated this. Of course, I mean it as remembering to take care of themselves, and usually mention things like stocking the freezer with pre-made nutritional meals and surrounding themselves with a supportive network.
This quote, however, raised an important point about interpretation.
I am sure that there have been many times that my 'happy mum, happy baby' has been interpreted as permission to put wants of the parent above the needs of the baby. There are times when the needs of mum are contrary to the needs of the baby. This is, usually, related to cultural or circumstantial situations, but may also be medical or emotional. The trick is ensuring that the needs of both mum and baby are met.
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