Kim Lock is the author of three novels, and is currently working on her fourth. She is a long time advocate of women's rights - particularly in breastfeeding.
Explore more about Kim on her author website (with links to her editorial writing), or rare-to-post but very awesome blog and her facebook page. Send her some love, buy her awesome books and tell her I sent you!
What follows, Kim originally wrote as a facebook post. It is shared here, with permission. Thank you Kim - your words are wise and need to be spread far and wide!
Meg Nagle is nothin' if not honest. Anyone who follows The Milk Meg on Facebook will be familiar with her genuine, knowledgeable and compassionate style. She is also funny.
When I first became pregnant, I assumed I would breastfeed for at least 12 months. Most people I knew had breastfeed about that long (or less), I had been breastfeed for 14 months alongside my twin. I grew up with stories of how we would ‘drive by feed’, as my mum would be feeding one of us, and the other would come along for the other side. So feeding a walking toddler was an image that seemed normal. But I thought you HAD to wean at some point.
This is a really interesting question.
My first response is: a couple of years.
In my own experience and in observing other mothers, the weaning process seems to take years. Not days or weeks. Years.
"At the hospital they told me I have to..."
Why is it that I am still fielding questions beginning like this!
Whether it is an intervention in the lead up to birth, during birth or post birth, questions starting with this set off alarm bells.
'Self Care', OR 'FITTING YOUR OWN MASK FIRST' is the catch cry of the modern woman. We are expected to have it all, to do it all, all the while the menfolk are not under this pressure. This blog post offers you an insightful TEDTALK that may just blow your mind! It addresses the balance of 'needs' and 'wants' when dealing with our children. I also offer you further resources to help you explore this new way of thinking.