It is a rare day that my washing machine is not whirling away. Mount Washington becomes Mount Foldmore becomes Mount Washington...
My vacuum cleaner is never put away.
Meals must be planned, shopped for and prepared.
Then washing up must be done.
And let's not forget: the toilet and bathroom must be kept clean.
These are basic, everyday tasks that can not be ignored.
They usually fall onto the shoulders of Mothers. She is the goal keeper. The ball has to get through every team member before it gets to her. She is a critical member of the team. The Team (we'll come back to this)
These tasks can be outsourced for the right price. Hire a cleaner, or a housekeeper. Buy pre-prepared meals...or employ a cook! Take your washing to the 'ironing lady' or the dry cleaners... These jobs need to be done. They are clearly valuable, for those with the means to outsource. It does not end there. You can even outsource the child care...babysitters will work for a fee, or there is family day care and childcare centres.
These jobs are some of the most important jobs that need to be done.
You will have seen the calculations, the ones that tell you what a home based adult (usually a 'stay at home mum') is worth. Most families can not afford the luxury of a stay at home adult...but the jobs still need to be done.
And on top of it all...the Self Care Chant is calling...
What is 'self care' anyway!
When you struggle to get a shower to yourself, your coffee goes cold and you can't even go to the toilet without an audience, the prospect of 'self care' seems a luxury for those who can outsource.
It can be overwhelming just thinking about it...oh yeah, thinking is a luxury too.
Why are the Goal Keepers, being crushed under mountains of washing?
It is time for a reset. To change the perspective. To rethink this modern life.
HERE ARE TWO KEY POINTS:
1. All capable members of the family - the Team - should be contributing to these tasks. As soon as your kids are able, get them involved. These are life skills. If you don't want to do these tasks, you need to be able to pay someone else to do it! It's the difference between an amateur team and professional team.
2. GET MINIMAL!
Live simply, rid yourself of the excess. Get back to Basics. You know the drill. There is wisdom in this, but it is not always as simple as it seems. Owning less, means less to manage. Eat simply and don't offer alternatives.
Create the Life you want.
A list of blog posts on the subject:
"The more empathetic we are as parents, the stronger the physiological destruction is." From BellyBelly: 6 small acts to avoid self destruction
The Power of NO! My thoughts on teaching respecting and the power of saying "no" and the Thoughts of Wendy Wisner
My Gripe with Self Care by Julia Jones of Newborn Mothers
Grubby Mummy writes of Self Care being "Another thing you have to do" and "Happy Baby, Happy Mummy"
My thoughts on Fitting your Own Mask First based on THIS POST by Evolutionary Parenting about the Perils of Listening to Idiots.
Is Motherhood Doing you Head in? We all have 'vogon days'...a list of support services.
Hollie B of the Institute for Self Crafting has created a Wellness Journal to help you on your way to a simpler, healthier lifestyle.
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